ANALYSIS OF MEANNESS

One of my dear friends has posted a quote from Mother Theresa on her facebook page about being a nice person. It basically said that even when people are mean to you, unkind, dishonest, calculated or jealous, you should still be nice to them or ignore them because the whole thing is not about them but it is about your relationship with God.
I had a serious problem with this quote. Sorry but I am not Mother Theresa. So I think unreasonable, illogical, self-centered people suck!!! Cheaters, liars, people with ulterior motives suck!!! Ungrateful, jealous, fake people suck!!! And I would rather see a World without them than deal with them...And if it was between God and us, why did God have to bring them into our lives in the first place? Why can't he/she make them better people? Why is that always the nice person expected to be nicer? Why does not anyone ask for the jackasses to start behaving decently towards their fellow human beings?
Frankly, I don't think God is involved in human beings' terrible treatment of each other...I am convinced that half of humanity- likes of described above- are horrible to the other -good hearted- half, and the other half have to deal with this BS. So at the end we are trying to feel better by thinking we are the better half... And if you think for one second they feel bad about their bad behavior you are sadly mistaken. They are perfectly comfortable with being mean. As a matter of fact I think people are born either nice or mean. I have a 10 years old son, and since his first day of socialization I could observe the different children's behavior towards each other. It was easy to distinguish the nice ones from the mean ones even at babyhood. Some children were naturally agreeable, sweet, friendly and enjoyed sharing, but others were selfish, tough, malicious, calculating despite having wonderful, loving parents. I had a chance to see most of them grow up to be the same kind of people. Some kind and thoughtful, some devious and manipulative.
So what makes a person good/nice or mean/bad? I have been doing some reading and research on this subject. Someone wrote that "There is good and bad in all of us but one is more dominant over the other." This indicates choice. When is one able to choose? When do we develop this ability? If we are able to choose, then why do some people choose to be mean? How about children? Do they choose to be mean? Or is it intrinsic? If it is innate and embedded, then is it fair to judge mean people? I guess this is what Mother Theresa believed urging us to ignore mean behavior, turning the other cheek in essence. Promoting passivity.
Some people believe "good" is subjective. This is where the boundaries start to blur and little by little we start to endorse wrongdoing in the name of tolerance and fairness. And that is exactly where the mean people want others to be in the first place, where they can take advantage of their good nature. Meanness can extend to do harm not only to our fellow human beings, but to other beings and even to our environment...May be meanness is a subconscious phenomena that strikes some people. Does this mean that human beings are not capable of real introspective and discretion? If the nice people are the ones with good conscious and sensibility, does it mean that our evolution towards betterment of humanity depends only on good people's decisions to react or stay passive to aggression? Then may be it is like once the Henry Hill in the Goodfellas said "Goody-good people...were suckers..."